*BC: Before COVID-19
In the last three months, almost everything we know for certain has changed.
We fondly remember gathering with family and friends for food, drink, and pleasant conversation. I don’t miss going out to restaurants as much as I miss my family. Things have started to open up, to seem to go back to what we used to consider normal, but I fear that we are only heading towards a resurgence of the virus and maybe a return to lock-down.
The people most likely to be affected by lock-down and self-isolation are the people who live alone. I can complain that we as a family could no longer touch and kiss as much as we would like for fear of infecting each other. (By now, we’ve been isolated from the rest of the world enough to not have to worry about that anymore!) But what if you live alone?
There are definitely some advantages to living alone. You have sole control over the remote, you can eat whatever you want, and you don’t have to worry about keeping someone up or being awakened at three in the morning to the sounds of heavy artillery while your partner or kids play Call of Duty. On the other hand, other than video chat, living alone during a lock-down means talking to oneself–a lot!
I tell myself that would be fine with me. I believe that I could handle the solitude with no strain. Lately I’m not so sure. When I want to talk to my husband, he’s at the other end of the hall–or the other side of the bed–and I can go and talk to him, hug him, kiss him, as much as I want to. My son’s door is halfway between and it’s easy to invite him down to my office or to the living room downstairs to watch a movie or play a game.
I don’t miss bars. I’m the only person in my immediate family who drinks alcohol, and I don’t do that much anymore because of the calories. But I do movie theaters and stores where they aren’t trying to hurry you along so the next people can come in. I miss book stores and libraries. I even miss the Salvation Army Store.
I have never made a secret of the fact that I am a geek. Even so, what I really miss from “before” is the ability to be near other people without having to hide behind a mask. I miss being able to smile at people and have them actually know that I’m smiling. When will someone come up with a see-through mask?
As the world we knew it comes back, little by little, here’s to the hope that only the good parts return and that we won’t be forced to lock ourselves away again.
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